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A Woman's Truth Can't Be Controlled
As a young teenager, I remember visiting a friend’s evangelical church because she was taking part in an abstinence ceremony. It was a...
Jan 16, 20233 min read


Since No One Is Coming To Save Us, We Save Ourselves
Remember when The Best Man first came into our hearts in 1999? It was an instant classic within the culture that showed the real, Black,...
Jan 9, 20233 min read


Good Vibes, Sometimes
Contrary to popular belief, we’re still in a global pandemic. People are still dying and it’s still critical to take necessary...
Dec 5, 20222 min read


Perspective Without The Drag
There’s nothing more satisfying than a good, ole’ fashioned calling out on social media to hold people accountable for their actions. We...
Nov 28, 20224 min read


Thanksgiving Is Complicated
Black people have long embraced the tradition of Thanksgiving. Even during slavery, they took time to be thankful for what they had,...
Nov 21, 20223 min read


When Even the Blind Can See
It's a normal Wednesday evening in 1992 and a 20-year-old me is rushing upstairs to turn the TV on with anticipation for Melrose Place....
Nov 14, 20223 min read


Black Women Are Not Magical Mules
There was a time in my life when I saw being “strong” as empowering. I believed the narrative that being a strong Black woman was...
Nov 7, 20223 min read


Not The Movie Kind Of Love
When I fondly reminisce about the 90’s and even early 2000’s, it’s the Black love movies for me. There was something about watching...
Oct 31, 20224 min read

My Black Man Wants Me to Live
A couple of weeks ago, Earl and I were in the car going nowhere in particular. Because he was driving, he asked me to help him plug his...
Oct 24, 20223 min read


We May All Need to Mind Our Business
When I got married at 26-years-old, people started asking me when we would start having children, even before the reception was over....
Oct 17, 20222 min read


What False Security Looks Like
During slavery, we know that the person who directed the daily work of the enslaved was the overseer, usually a white man. But...
Oct 10, 20223 min read


Sometimes, Silence Says It All
A white woman messaged me on social media the other day and asked why my book, When Black Women Breathe, was just for Black women. She...
Sep 12, 20222 min read


Let The Church Say... What?
One of the things that has puzzled me for years is how devastated and broken many Black communities are although there are a huge number...
Aug 29, 20223 min read

We May All Need Therapy
In case you missed it two weeks ago, Psychology Today published an article about how men are lonelier than ever because they lack the...
Aug 22, 20223 min read


Women Saying No, And The Beauty of Saying It More Often
I’ve always believed in providing more explanation than what is asked for. For me, some things simply aren’t black and white; they have...
Aug 15, 20222 min read


You Have More In Common With Brittney Griner Than You Think
In 2017, Serena Williams gave birth to her daughter Olympia. Although she complained of pain, doctors did not believe her. The most...
Jul 18, 20222 min read


Toxicity Is Not Funny (or deserved)
I'm not sure who needs to hear this but... toxicity against women is not funny or deserved. Even when it's Kim Kardashian. Not only is it...
Mar 7, 20223 min read


Why Relationship Status Shouldn't Define Black Women
I wrote a letter to myself, during my senior year of high school, that still makes me smile. In it I expressed my joy of finally being...
Jan 31, 20223 min read

What Is Your Life Story?
What’s your life story? I don’t mean where you grew up, went to school, got your first job, etc. I mean what’s your STORY? What narrative...
Nov 15, 20213 min read


Technology and Racism Don't Mix
I was in high school when we got our first family computer. I don’t even remember the brand it was, but I was excited. All I could think...
Nov 8, 20212 min read
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