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Thank you, Still
Sometimes we find ourselves in embarrassing, overwhelming circumstances and we don’t know how to manage it. We could be on the receiving...
Aug 21, 20233 min read


Everyone Likes You, Until You're A Black Woman With Something To Say
The more we live and speak our lives as Black women, we serve as a reminder for each other that closed mouths aren't a part of our DNA.
Jun 5, 20234 min read


Women Have Earned the Right To Avoid Dusty Consequences
Sometimes, we want what we don’t need. And then there are times when what we need doesn’t need (or even want) us. Every now and then,...
Apr 24, 20233 min read

Once You Flee, Black Women Won't Leave The Light On For You
If you have yet to hear about the Passport Bros, well, you are probably better for it. There are particular groups of men, primarily...
Mar 20, 20234 min read


There's A Bigger Conversation
Lately, Americans haven’t been faring well in Mexico. So, when two Black Americans ended up dead, and two others kidnapped, just south of...
Mar 13, 20233 min read


Black Girl Magic Is Not For Sale
When you see a Black woman, you’re witnessing a revolution. In a country so determined to rest its back on her shoulders, while at the...
Feb 20, 20233 min read


The Business of Violence
Over the last few years, we have borne witness to a national reckoning on racism and violence against women. We’ve pierced the light in...
Feb 13, 20233 min read


And the Angry Black Woman Is Not Angry At All
If someone asked you to describe an angry Black woman, you’d be able to do it. The image of one hand on her hip, the other hand in your...
Feb 6, 20233 min read


A Way With Color
My relationship with my chocolate skin began at the age of eleven. I was obsessed with becoming a supermodel, despite knowing that I’d...
Jan 23, 20232 min read


A Woman's Truth Can't Be Controlled
As a young teenager, I remember visiting a friend’s evangelical church because she was taking part in an abstinence ceremony. It was a...
Jan 16, 20233 min read


Since No One Is Coming To Save Us, We Save Ourselves
Remember when The Best Man first came into our hearts in 1999? It was an instant classic within the culture that showed the real, Black,...
Jan 9, 20233 min read


Self-Care Is Intentional Work
Finding peace as a Black woman requires a tremendous amount of persistence. Think about it: You wake up each morning to a country run by...
Dec 12, 20223 min read


Perspective Without The Drag
There’s nothing more satisfying than a good, ole’ fashioned calling out on social media to hold people accountable for their actions. We...
Nov 28, 20224 min read


When Even the Blind Can See
It's a normal Wednesday evening in 1992 and a 20-year-old me is rushing upstairs to turn the TV on with anticipation for Melrose Place....
Nov 14, 20223 min read


Black Women Are Not Magical Mules
There was a time in my life when I saw being “strong” as empowering. I believed the narrative that being a strong Black woman was...
Nov 7, 20223 min read


Not The Movie Kind Of Love
When I fondly reminisce about the 90’s and even early 2000’s, it’s the Black love movies for me. There was something about watching...
Oct 31, 20224 min read

My Black Man Wants Me to Live
A couple of weeks ago, Earl and I were in the car going nowhere in particular. Because he was driving, he asked me to help him plug his...
Oct 24, 20223 min read


Sometimes, Silence Says It All
A white woman messaged me on social media the other day and asked why my book, When Black Women Breathe, was just for Black women. She...
Sep 12, 20222 min read

We May All Need Therapy
In case you missed it two weeks ago, Psychology Today published an article about how men are lonelier than ever because they lack the...
Aug 22, 20223 min read


Women Saying No, And The Beauty of Saying It More Often
I’ve always believed in providing more explanation than what is asked for. For me, some things simply aren’t black and white; they have...
Aug 15, 20222 min read
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